Those of you who know my husband know I have married up. This is not a statement of my humble opinion- it’s just fact. In the turbulent whirlwind I call my daily life, Kelly is this stalwart pillar lending me his stillness. I am in awe of all that he adds to my life just by being in it. Yes, I definitely married up.
Let me say though, that there have been seasons of our marriage I did not see this. All I could see were my needs and not his gifts. Whether my days were filled with diapers and baby spit up or irritating bosses and small paychecks, the gift of my husband never wavered- only my acknowledgement of it. Kelly didn’t stop being a gift. I just stopped seeing him as a gift. I took him for granted. No awe, no thanks- just an onslaught of unrealistic expectations.
Instead of remembering what life without Kelly had been like, I came to expect the simple wonders of marriage. The way he listened to my stories, and smiled at my jokes were so common placed I forgot they were treasures. How could I forget how nice it was to have someone to share my closet, my meals and my bed? Taking him for granted came from forgetting the needs he is already filling and looking only to my needs that are not yet filled. How sad.
But think of this: if I can take for granted the gifts of my flesh and blood husband are there times I take for granted the gifts of the Lord? Of course. There are gifts around me that I take for granted without even a thought. Do you have loved ones? Health? Home? Income? Plans? Passions? Reward? Accomplishment? Do you see these things as gifts from God are just part of the framework of your life?
What about the comfort of knowing God is in control, the joy of His unending love and the immensity of the gift of His Son’s death on the cross? Have you lost the awe and wonder of these gifts is in your life? Has the Lord God Almighty become as comfortable in your life as your husband’s shoes in your closet and his razor by the sink? I know this is too often true to me. I need to focus more on what the Apostle Paul says in Hebrews 12:28 ”…let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe.”
Maybe we need more awe in our relationship with Christ and less familiarity. Each of us has married up as we have been saved by Jesus the precious bridegroom. He is all love, all majesty and worthy of our praise and thanksgiving. Don’t lose the awe. Don’t lose the thankful heart for having Jesus in your life. Push yourself to focus on the awe.