Cancer Companions understand that cancer is not the most important thing. It’s the most important things which will get you through your cancer. Can this be any more true than in a parent/child relationship? Whether you are a parent watching your child struggle with cancer or a son or daughter watching your parent face it, these relationships can grow in importance with every passing day.
It certainly true for me and my dad. I was 29 years old, double income no kids, living in suburban Chicago and completely self-absorbed yet the news of my dad’s cancer diagnosis rocked my world. Before the diagnosis, my dad was my “go to guy” every time I needed to spaz about my boss or my house or my husband. After the diagnosis I’d call to see how he was doing. Me? I was “fine.” I could no more talk about my difficulties than I could intentionally shoot myself in the foot. What I eventually realized is that Dad did not want to let cancer get in the way of him being my “go-to-guy” for my problems, that was my doing. I let cancer take away some of our closeness, our sharing and our mutual support. What did I learn? Cancer doesn’t get to take away the way I connect with those I love.
DO YOU HAVE A FAMILY PICTURE TO SHARE? Just email me a picture at firstname.lastname@example.org or click the contact page on this website and leave me a note. The picture can be of the parent and child from childhood, or a large family portrait or a special family moment. Just tell us who is in the picture, what type of cancer, and something you treasure about the parent/child relationship.